What To Do When Your Friend Loses a Baby

Hi, my name is Lindsay. Mother’s Day is coming up and I’m thinking about this a lot because I am that friend. The one who lost a baby. I am probably the friend who you’re tiptoeing around. I might be the friend who has become a major social weirdo and cancels plans last-minute. I am the friend who you’re not sure about inviting to a baby shower. I’m the friend who might have unfollowed you on social media when you announced that you were pregnant (read: I did. I definitely did. I just need to be sad right now.). I can’t relate to your normal-mom conversations about late-night feedings and nap schedules and which is the best jogging stroller. The truth is, I have experienced motherhood in …

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We’re Having A…

Send all the balloons! And all the help! This little nugget is a BOY! 💙 Can you believe it? We’re so over the moon. If all you wanted was the gender announcement, thank you for being here! Merry Christmas and Happy Holidays! You’re welcome to come back when I get normal with my emotions again which is probably never. On the other hand, if you wanted to get into the detailed and emotional and borderline too deep perspective on all this (not that I know anything about that), then the rest of this post is for people like us. Carry on. Boy Vs. Girl Vs. All My Feelings Alright. I know in my head that it was just a 50/50 chance and …

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The First 40 Days Without My Son

A few weeks before Afton was born, I bought a book called The First 40 Days. It’s about the 4th Trimester. You know, those fresh days after you bring your baby home, when you – the powerful, beautiful, natural mother – are reeling and healing and head-over-heels in love all at once. This book embraces the idea that there’s so much healing and adjusting that needs to happen after a baby is born, and that we should really view those first 40 days after birth as an extension of the pregnancy – the 4th Trimester. The book is really beautiful and intentional, and I’d recommend it for any hippie-leaning mama who is preparing for life with a new baby. But that’s not me …

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